I HAVE NEVER HAD ANYONE IN THIS WHOLE WORLD WANT ME LIKE YOU DO. DID YOU
KNOW THAT?
(DAUGHTER TOVA TO MOTHER RASA)

WTAG MOTHER-LOVE LETTER
4 22 08
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IT IS SO HARD TO BE APART FROM YOU RIGHT NOW. I AM JUST BESIDE MYSELF. I
HATE THESE FEELINGS. I REMEMBER THEM ALL TOO WELL, HOW I USED TO FEEL. JUST
NOT AS EXTREME, CEPT I DO FEEL LIKE DYING A BIT LOL~ :)

AND PERHAPS THAT IS THE MOST POWERFUL EMOTIONAL FEELING OF ALL

Rasa interviews Tova re attachment disorder

1. When a person with 'attachment disorder' seeks a
Mother, define what they
are seeking

SOMEONE TO REPLACE THE MOTHER THEY NEVER HAD. THE YEARNING INSIDE OF THEM TO
GROW UP HEALTHY IS STRONG. SO THEY SEEK THE LOVE AND AFFECTION AND
AFFIRMATION OF ANOTHER MATERNAL FIGURE TO IN TURN GROW THEMSELVES UP ON THE
INSIDE.

2. How does a Mother fit the bill for attachment parenting, what makes
her suitable or portend the possibility of being suitable?

THIS IS TOO SIMILAR TO ANOTHER QUESTION. PLEASE OMIT THIS ONE. ATTACHMENT
PARENTING REFERS TO INANTS AND CHILDREN, NOT ADULTS. ALTHO I MIGHT COME UP
WITH A CHAPTER IN OUR BOOK CALLED "ATTACHMENT REPARENTING OUR SOCIETY" OHHH
THAT IS GOOD STUFF! EH????? LOVE IT!

3. What would make a woman unsuitable for such a position?

IF SHE WERE INCONSISTENT, IRRESPONSIBLE, AND NEGLECTFUL TO EVEN SIMPLE
DESIRES, NEEDS OR REQUESTS.

4. What makes Guru Rasa suitable?

SHE PROTECTS, RESPECTS, AND DOESN'T NEGLECT!

5. When we speak, what gladdens you the most, what does not?

YOUR ATTENTIVENESS TO ME. YOUR CONCERN FOR MYSELF AND MY DAY. ALSO YOUR
CONCERN FOR MY OVERALL WELL BEING.

WHAT DOES NOT MAKE ME HAPPY IS WHEN I FEEL PRESSURED TO DO THINGS I DON'T
WANT TO DO, MAYBE YET, OR AT THE TIME. AND IF I SAY NO SHE WILL BE UNHAPPY.
AND I FEAR REJECTION.

YOU COULD NOT TELL MY MOTHER NO. SHE WOULD THROW AN ADULT TEMPER TANTRUM IN
THE STORE EVEN. IT HAD TO BE ALL ABOUT HER. SO I AM STILL PROGRAMMED THAT
WAY. MYSELF LAST, ALWAYS. AND IF YOU DO NOT PUT YOURSELF LAST AND YOU TALK
ABOUT YOURSELF MORE YOU FEAR REJECTION FOR SOMEONE GETTING BORED OF YOU
BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT FOCUSSING ON THEM. I FEEL GUILT WHEN TALKING ABOUT
MYSELF MOST OF THE TIME. AND EVEN WONDER WHY PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT MYSELF
BECAUSE THEY CAN'T HANDLE IT OR DON'T REALLY WANT TO KNOW. AND THEN THEY
THROW YOU AWAY.

6. There are many stages of attachment disorder -
what is it that you seek the most at this time, to make you feel loved by
your Mother?

ACCEPTANCE AND CONSISTENCY

I DO NOT KNOW WHICH MOTHER YOU ARE SPEAKING OF, BUT OF MY BIRTH MOTHER, I
SEEK NOTHING FROM HER.

7. Is this a way of redoing what was past & correcting what went wrong?

YES, VERY MUCH SO, WE WILL ALWAYS LOOK FOR A MOTHER/CAREGIVER OR OTHER FORM
OF LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE FROM SOME ONE OR SOMETHING IF WE ARE NOT LOVED IN THE
WAY WE SHOULD BE.

8. Who would not be suitable as a Mother surrogate?
Any particular things come to mind in a glaring way?

SOMEONE WHO IS NOT EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY.

9. What are the 'love fantasies' of someone in your state of attachment?

ONLY TO BE LOVED IN A NORMAL WAY. NOT OVERLY AFFECTIONATE, NOT LAYING IN A
LAP ALL THE TIME, BUT JUST NORMAL TOUCHING. CUDDLING BEFORE SLEEP, UPON
WAKING ETC. HOLDING HANDS SOME. STROKING HAIR (AND OF COURSE THE BACK OF THE
HEAD :) PATS ON THE BACK TOO.

10. From your studies, is the behavior of males a lot different than
females with this disorder? What are the differences if any?

MALES BECOME ANGRY AND DOMINANT WHEN FACED WITH ISSUES OF ABANDONMENT MORE
OFTEN THAN WOMEN. MEN BECOME VIOLENT IN WAYS TOWARDS WOMEN BECAUSE THEIR
LACK OF MOTHER LOVE TURNS TO HATE FOR WOMEN. THEY ARE NOT TAUGHT HOW TO
MANAGE THEIR EMOTIONS, DEAL WITH THEIR EMOTIONS IN A WAY WHICH IS HEALTHY.
THEY ARE PROGRAMMED TO THINK OF SEX ONLY AND NOT SWEET MOTHER LOVE, SO AS
THEY GET OLDER THEY DO NOT OFTEN SEEK A REPLACEMENT MOTHER, BUT IN TURN CAN
BECOME SEX NYMPHOS, (SEEKING THE INTIMATE MOTHER LOVE BY THE COMPONENT OF
SEX ALONE) VIOLENT WITH THE WOMEN IN THEIR LIFE OR EVEN BECOMING CHILD
MOLESTERS IN ORDER TO FEEL DOMINANT AND IN CONTROL OF THEIR LIFE. EVEN WHEN
THEY ARE FALLING APART ON THE INSIDE. BOYS AND MEN DO NOT KNOW HOW TO FIND A
REPLACEMENT MOTHER LIKE WOMEN DO BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT TAUGHT TO BE SOFT AND
INNOCENT, BUT SHOVED AROUND AND TAUGHT TO BE MACHO AND HARSH SO IN THEIR
MIND THEY WOULD HAVE NO IDEA THAT THEY COULD FIND A WOMAN TO LOVE THEM IN A
SWEET WAY INSTEAD OF JUST SEXUAL IN ORDER TO FULFILL THEIR LONGING.

Thank you Tova my Sweet 4 16 09
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

FORMULA VS BREASTFED---POISON VS HEALTH

Have you ever looked at the ingredients label on a container of baby
formula? Oftentimes, there are things in there that we, as adults, shouldn't
even be eating -- hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup and cow's
milk, just to name a few. These are ingredients that promote chronic
disease, and yet we are feeding them to our very youngest consumers, who
have no say in the matter.

Of particular concern in formula is the ingredient manganese, a neurotoxic
chemical found in much higher concentrations in baby formula, particularly
soy-based formulas, than in breast milk. According to the EWG, soy-based
formulas contain about 80 times as much manganese as mother's milk, while
animal-based formulas contain about 30 times more. Elevated manganese levels
have been linked to behavioral problems, such as Attention Deficit
Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) later in life. Babies are not able to absorb
and excrete excess manganese during the first year of life, according to the
EWG.

The Environmental Working Group (EWG) said the research reveals that
Bisphenol-A, used to line nearly all infant formula cans, was found in at
levels "far higher" in the product than those that leach from plastic
bottles under normal use.

BPA is used to manufacture polycarbonate, a rigid plastic used to make
infant feeding bottles, plates, mugs, jugs, beakers, microwave oven ware and
storage containers. It is also used in the production of the epoxy-phenolic
resins that form internal protective linings for cans and metal lids. The
resins are also used as coatings for water storage tanks and wine vats.

Babies who don't breastfeed:

20% increased risk of Leukemia
60% increased risk of common and chronic ear infections
40% increased risk of Diabetes
Huge increase in upper respiratory infections which led to hospitalizations,
increased risk of other types of cancer

and (the whopper) are 20% more likely to die in the first year

Cow's milk is very high in saturated fat, which human babies have trouble
digesting, and low in monounsaturates, the main fats in human milk. So the
first step is to remove all the fat. The resulting skim milk is heated, then
dehydrated if it's going to be in powdered form. Then new fats, in the form
of vegetable oil blends, are added along with proteins, milk sugar (lactose)
and a long list of nutrients, vitamins and minerals that are required by
federal regulation to approximate their levels in breastmilk.
Cow's milk has three times as much protein as breastmilk. Calves need this
because they grow so quickly, but for human babies it would put too much of
a load on the liver and kidneys. Cow's milk also has a higher proportion of
casein to whey - the two kinds of proteins in mammal milks - than breastmilk
does. So formula manufacturers must reduce the overall amount of protein and
add extra whey to mimic the protein balance found in breastmilk.
Other ingredients prevent the mixture from separating or going bad. Some
formulas have thickeners, and specialized formulas for premature babies have
enhanced levels of nutrients. Any newly developed formula must meet a number
of safety and nutritional standards, including clinical evidence that it is
nutritionally adequate to promote normal growth.

http://www.todaysparent.com/baby/breastfeeding/article.jsp?content=20030807_1012\
50_216

Illness and Hospitalization

Formula feeding accounts for up to 26% of insulin dependent diabetes
mellitus in children.
Otitis media (middle ear infection) is up to 3-4 times as prevalent in
formula-fed infants.
US Formula fed infants have a 10 fold risk of being hospitalized for any
bacterial infection.
Mortality

One sudden infant death for every 1000 live birth occurs as a result of
failure to breastfeed in western industrialized nations.

For every 1000 babies born in the U.Ss each year, four die because they are
not breastfed.
Development and Intelligence

Scores on the Bayley Mental Development Index were lower in formula-fed
children at 1-2 years of age. Scores were directly correlated with the
duration of breastfeeding.

Formula fed preterm infants had lower IQ scores (8 points) at age 7-8 years
than breastfed premies, even after adjustment for mother's education and
social class.
Composition and contamination of infant formula

Due to an excessive phosphate load in formula, formula fed infants face a 30
fold risk of neonatal hypocalcemic tetany (convulsions, seizures, twitching)
during the first 10 days of life.

Formula fed infants are at a high risk of exposure to life-threatening
bacterial contamination. Enterobacter sakazakii is a frequent contaminant
in powdered formula and can cause sepsis and meningitis in newborns.

look also at

http://www.salon.com/mwt/feature/1999/07/19/formula/index.html

HOW TO LOVE MY GROWN UP DAUGHTER WHO SUFFERS FROM 'ATTACHMENT DISORDER' -SHE
HAS HEALED MUCH OF IT, BUT THERE IS STILL SOME WORK TO BE DONE - I AM HER
NEW 'MOMMY' AND LEARNING HOW TO BE THE PROVIDER OF TRUE LOVE ...LETTERS:

mmmm. i liked that. thank you :) i am gonna start lifting weights too! but i
need my mama time too :) lol

On Mon, 4/21/08, Rasa Von Werder rasa@...> wrote:

To: fortheloveofmilk@...
Date: Monday, April 21, 2008, 7:25 PM
OMG GOTTA HOLD YOU IN MY LOVE
TIGHT & STRONG
I HAVE TO LIFT WEIGHTS GO BACK OUTSIDE MUST MUST MUST
KEEP BODY NICE
OK
I KISS YOU ONE TRILLION TIMES HOLD YOU TENDER & TIGHT
KISS CHEEK FOREHEAD KISS
TOUCH BACK OF HEAD
STROKE HAIR
HOLD HOLD HOLD HOLD HOLD
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
YOU ARE SO SWEET
MOM

TOVA: MAMMA, CAN YOU DO A VIDEO FOR ME? YOU CAN MAKE IT PRIVATE AND JUST
ALLOW ME TO VIEW IT. THAT MIGHT BE BEST. I JUST WANT YOU TO TALK TO ME ON A
VIDEO. :)

TOVA ADDS RASA'S MIDDLE NAME AS HER OWN:

YOU WILL SLEEP LIKE AN ANGEL MOTHER GODDESS. I KNOW YOU WILL HAVE PLEASANT
DREAMS OF THE ONES YOU LOVE. I AM SENDING IT TO YOU RIGHT NOW. 10 HOURS AT
THE LEAST TO RECOUP. YOUR BODY. I WILL SLEEP WELL MYSELF TO ENSURE YOU SLEEP
WELL ALSO.

I LOVE YOU ALWAYS AND FOREVER.

TOVA SOFIJA~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

BELOVED TOVA CREATES A BABY NECKLACE (SEE IMAGE) - WHILE BABY NURSES, HE/SHE
PLAYS WITH THE NECKLACE HANGING OFF MOMMY'S NECK!

HERE IT IS.
100 PERCENT WOVEN HEMP ROPE AND WOODEN BEADS SAFE FOR
BABY~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

OK GOOD :) GO REST NOW. I AM GOING OUT AND ABOUT TO TRY AND FIND SOME BEADS
TO MAKE NURSING NECKLACES.

I AM WATCHING YOU RIGHT NOW ON YOUTUBE. MAKES ME FEEL CALM SO HAVE YOU ON
ALL THE TIME.
CAN WAIT TO SEE THE PICS ON MYSPACE! :)

LOVE LOVE LOVE~~~TE AMO TE AMO TE AMO~~~LIEBE LIEBE LIEBE!!!

rasa@...>
Subject: Re: hola mamita! :) te amo amante!
To: fortheloveofmilk@...
Date: Saturday, April 19, 2008, 11:00 AM
MY ANGEL
I MUST REST A BIT WORKED ON THE MY SPACE PHOTOS
CHECK IT OUT YOU COULD CHANGE THE ORDER BY HITTING
'ARRANGE' PLEASE DO SO
IF YOU CAN MAKE ANY IMPROVEMENT, MY BEGINNING IS PRETTY
GOOD BUT I DID NOT
ARRANGE ALL OF IT TO BE PERFECT, GETTING TIRED NOW
WILLMAKE OUR NEWSLETTER TODAY FOR YOUR SPECIAL STUDIES
IT WILL BE VERY IMPORTANT
LIKE YOU
I LOVE YOU MY PRECIOUS DAUGHTER
INFINITE LOVE MOTHER
From: "alicia horton"
fortheloveofmilk@...>
To: "Rasa Von Werder"
rasa@...>
Sent: Friday, April 18, 2008 10:49 PM
Subject: hola mamita! :) te amo amante!~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

attachment re-parenting our society

how to determine healthy and unhealthy attachments

relationship dynamics: give and take

growing up unattached: personal testimonies

self parenting techniques: learning to love and care for yourself

mother daughter dynamics: what is healthy and what is
not~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

AMISH DO NOT GET AUTISM!
BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT VACCINATED!!!!

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2005/05/04/amish-autism-part-\
one.aspx

http://www.whale.to/vaccine/olmsted.html

A POEM FROM TOVA TO RASA:

YOU'VE BEEN WITH ME A VERY LONG TIME

YOU RESIDED IN ME ALL THESE LONG YEARS
WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING YOU WERE THERE

LOVING ME ALL ALONG

HOLDING ME UP TO HEAVEN
TIL MY HAIR SHONE OF GOLD
AND MY SKIN WAS TANNED FROM HEAVENS LIGHT

YOU WERE THERE WATCHING ME
IN YOUR INNER MOST PARTS
WAITING UNTIL I EMERGED

FOR YOUR LOVE TO SURFACE
AND NOT JUST SUFICE

THE MELODY OF LIFE I WAS FORCED TO PLAY
WAS OFF KEY
MY EYES DECEIVED ME MANY TIMES
WHEN LOOKING AT THE NEVER ENDING SCORES

WHILE YOU WERE DANCING, I WAS SINGING
JUST TO MAKE IT THRU LIKE YOU

WHILE YOU WERE LOVING A CRAZED CHILD
I WAS LOVING A CRAZED MOTHER

UNTIL WE BOTH GAVE UP
AND WENT OUR OWN WAYS

BUT YOU WERE WITH ME
AND I WAS WITH YOU

YOUR LOVE,
MY LOVE LONGING TO GET OUT
FOR THE HOPE SUPERNAL
TO NEVER FORGET THAT WE CAN LOVE LIKE GOD LOVES US
WHEN IT SEEMS MOST IMPOSSIBLE AT TIMES

YOUR LOVE WAS THERE
MY LOVE WAS HERE
BUT WE WERE LOVING TOGETHER
WE WERE TOGETHER IN THAT WAY
LOVING EACH OTHER

WHEN THERE WAS NO ONE ELSE TO LOVE IN THIS GREAT BIG
WORLD~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Rasa's great book Breastfeeding is Lovemaking Between Mother and Child:
http://www.lulu.com/content/904767
SO SO IMPORTANT well done Rasa 22 Jan 2008
by Bianca Maria Post
This subject of breast feeding is so crucial and trust Rasa von Werder to
spend her precious time to write a book about this subject to bring the
deeper fundamental wisdom to the attention of so many people. Well written
and illustrated its a must read for women (and men) who are ready to look at
this subject from another view point. Beautiful photo's are used to clear up
and deepen the understanding of the reader. Compliments to you Rasa.
Ahiranta.SCIENCE SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS 3 Jun 2007
by Rasa Von Werder

This book features two great scientists, neuropsychologist Dr. James W.
Prescott and Clinical Evolutionary Psychologist Dr. Dale Glaebach.
James W. Prescott was a health scientist administrator at the National
Institute of Child Health and Human Development in Bethesda, Maryland. He
contends that the greatest threat to world peace comes from those nations
which have the most depriving environments for their children and which are
most repressive of sexual affection and female sexuality. Dr. Prescott
initiated and established a number of basic brain-behavioral research
programs, which documented that the early life experiences of mother-infant
separation induced a variety of developmental brain abnormalities. He
contends that babies should be breast fed and given close bonding for at
least two and a half years for proper brain growth, health and happiness; if
not we have people prone to violence, suicide, depression and addiction. His
studies are monumentally important and certainly worth considering toward a
Nobel Peace Prize.
Dr. Dale Glaebach explains how patriarchal religious anti-sexualism
ultimately caused breast-feeding to become "redefined" as an asexual
experience. Such "redefinition" of breast-feeding is then linked to the
sexual repression of women as part of their stigmatization in the 18th
Century as maternal beings too "pure" to have any sexual needs at all.
Sexual fears are shown as a continuing plague to a mother's enjoyment of the
process, even causing her to cease breast-feeding early when such feelings
arise, to the detriment of the child. He explains that evolution has given
breast feeding to be pleasurable in the same way that sex is pleasurable, to
MAKE SURE THAT THE HUMAN RACE CONTINUES.
Rasa Von Werder takes note that these scientists are highlighting the
maledictions of Patriarchy upon Motherhood, childhood and the human race,
and she sees the restoration of Matriarchy and worship of MotherGod the
needed remedy. She explains how Holy Mary has been appearing to end violence
and bring back devotion - Our Lady of Fatima stopped the cold war and threat
of nuclear annihilation. Hundreds of sightings of the Feminine Divine are
reported. Worship MotherGod or our planet is doomed she says, and a program
is presented in this book, beautifully illustrated with hundreds of
breast-feeding, cute children and artistic designs. Ashley Montagu is also
well represented here for his teachings on touch and natural superiority of
women.

Rasa's Myspace features many beautiful images of Darling Tova as well as
friends & Maternal images

http://www.myspace.com/rasavonwerder